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Pussy Power Hour: MISS FILLY!

Posted on November 17 2016

Miss Pole Dance Australia

Pussy Power Hour is our weekly blog where we get to speak to inspiring women. Our first instalment we were lucky enough to interview writer, motorbike rider and as of Saturday the reigning Miss Pole Dance Australia 2016 - the one and only Miss Filly!

We have asked her 11 questions to get to know her a little, and the some questions about her book! Warning: You're going to fall in love with this intelligent and inspiring badass of a woman. 

Q: Who inspires you in the pole world who is not pole-famous?
My student Elyshia. She has grown so much over the last few years and is always so humble. She is just unapologetically herself with out even knowing it; I think it’s a great thing to aspire to. It reminds me to pull my head in at times! 

Q: What is the most embarrassing / humorous thing you've done whilst training/pole dancing?
I was teaching my high level class a flip and demonstrated as I talked them through it. All very seriously at the end, I ask ‘does that all make sense?’ and they’re all just staring at me. I look down and a whole boob was out. I thought it added dramatic effect so I continued to lecture them about safety anyway. ;)

Q: If you could marry one pole celebrity who would it be? And who would be the maid of honour? 
I would marry Adam Lin to keep him in the country!! And he makes me laugh. Chilli Rox as maid of honour because I’m sure she knows how to throw a killer Bachelorette party. 

Q: If you could have sex with any celeb, who would it be?
Right now, the Rock. I’m just so curious; it’d be either insanely good or a massive fail. 

Q: You can make one law that everyone in the world must abide by… what is it?
All day breakfast mandatory at all cafes and restaurants. 

Q: Outside the pole world, what female inspires you and why?
My ex’s sister. I’ve watched her make her career happen, take chances and work hard - with a good sense of humour about it all too. I have a bit of a crush really, she’s so talented. 

Q: Which is your fave tee from the Creatures Of XIX Teevocative range? 
Crop Top PU$$Y POWER - very cool!

Q: If you could be highly skilled in any art, what would it be (not including dance!)?
I’d love to be able to sing. I’ve always done things that require massive or cumbersome equipment to lug around (drums, poles) and I’d really like to carry nothing with me to show off. 

Q: Outside from Pole, what are you happy to have achieved?
It might sound a little trivial but buying myself a Harley Davidson was a great acheivement to me. I didn’t grow up with lots of money and I was taught to work hard to earn what I had. Being able to buy a Harley was a massive milestone and a reminder of the equal parts luck and hard work that go into making your passion a full time job.

miss pole dance motorcycle 

Q: The internet can be a black hole of misogynistic comments, however also opens us to some incredible feminist communities with great  speakers/thinkers and engaged in-depth discussions. What is your experience of this, have you been the target of misogynistic comments or know someone who has? 
I was surprised the first time I read through comments on my 2014 winning MPDA show on YouTube. My favourite comment was “she shouldn’t have won because she’s ugly and a little bit fat”. I have never laughed so hard. I thought I would be really affected by what these anonymous trolls would have to say but I really wasn’t. It makes me sad that people waste their time with such comments in the first place. Women should be building each other up not tearing each other down. It made me realise that I wanted to fight that attitude not by publicly shaming them or starting online arguments but rather by leading by example. Indulging the haters only breeds more hate. Don’t get me wrong sometimes I like to retort with my two cents but I try harder to praise and encourage the supportive feedback, good vibes and positive reinforcement of each other in the community.

Q: The attitude that ‘sex is fabulous’  is apparent in the Pole Dance community. Do you feel this ‘sex-positivity’ provides others in the pole community confidence to reclaim words such as ‘slut’, and reject the prude or whore categorisation?
I like to think I am sexually liberated in the sense that I know what I like, I am confident in my sexual prowess and I don’t feel oppressed by my environment. I see a lot of students that start off quite insecure or feel the need to self censor their sexuality and in that case, pole tends to liberate many men and women and build confidence in themselves as an individual. As far as reclaiming words go, we need to actually understand the meaning of the words in the first place. ‘Slut’ has had derogatory connotations for so long it’s synonymous with low self esteem and a careless selection process. But if we understand ‘slut’ to mean a woman that loves sex, that is in control of her choices and hasn’t chosen monogamy then yes, sluts are fabulous. I’ll take 10.

We can finger wiggle and be sassy, but we also need to be smart. 

Miss Filly has recently co-authored the book 'Don't Even'. We wanted to find out more...

Q: Describe your book in three words:
Revealing. Honest. Moist. 

Q: Why were you inspired you to write the book?
It was a cathartic experience. In the endless persuit of personal growth we found ourselves reliving these stories to our friends, working out what went wrong, what we learnt and how we wouldn't change the experience for anything. We decided there was enough there for a a book and it just grew from there. 

Q: What is your favourite part?
I have a few but generally they are Tania’s stories - I get a kick out of reading them and as it’s purposefully is written in the way we speak I find reliving her relationships the most entertaining!

Q: What did you enjoy most about writing?
The feeling of finishing a chapter. It’s so liberating and I felt a little lighter each time something came out of my head and onto the page. Then to read it to Tania and have her cackle - perfection.

Q: Tell us a little about Tania, the co-author?
She is my very intelligent other half. We both had very different upbringings and it means we balance each other out very well. She is incredibly driven, with a passion for giving back and she is my inspiration for learning and understanding myself. She spends a lot of time self reflecting and working on becoming the best human she can be, all with a very zen demeanor. 

Q: Have you written anything before or always liked writing?
I had always had an interest in writing - at school I was all English and English Lit but only ever dabbled in bits and pieces.

Q: Any tips for the women out there that want to write a book?
It was nice to see other women approach us and say they were inspired to finish that short story or complete that children’s book. Just do it. It isn’t hard, you just think it is. If any one wants advice on self publishing reach out and ask someone that’s done it. You’ll be surprised! 

Q: Any plans for a e-book?
...We’ll see!

 Thank you Filly for allowing us to ask you some questions and get to know you better. 

 You can now buy Miss Filly and Tanias' book ‘Don’t Even’ from the link below:

https://donteven.com.au/about/shop/

book don't even 

Photograph Credit: Brad Vertigo.

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