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RECLAIMING ‘SLUT’: WE ASK 3 POLE STARS

Posted on March 07 2017

PU$$Y POWER HOUR, a cheeky twist on Women Crush Wednesday sees us interview incredible and strong women, and a recurring question we have explored is the reclaiming of the word slut.

THE QUESTION:

The attitude that ‘sex is fabulous’  is apparent in the Pole Dance community. Do you feel this ‘sex-positivity’ provides others in the pole community confidence to reclaim words such as ‘slut’? How do you feel about this and does anything in your opinion need to be addressed or defended?

The Top 3 Responses came from the loving and thoughtful minds of; reigning Miss Pole Dance Australia, Motorbike riding and general badass Miss Filly, international photographer, activists and stripper style dancer Millie Robson, and last but not least the slinky, low flow queen and Dance Filthy USA winner Carmine Blackdance!

RESPONSE 1. MILLIE ROBSON

 I think the attitude to 'sex is fabulous' is brilliant! It is and it should definitely be celebrated, I love that women are becoming so confident in themselves. I got to admit tho I'm not too keen on the word 'slut' personally but I have absolutely no problem with girls re-claiming it. I just know for me I def wouldn't be hashtagging 'slut' under any of my sexy pics for instance! More #PUSSYPOWER I reckon :)

 RESPONSE 2. MISS FILLY

I like to think I am sexually liberated in the sense that I know what I like, I am confident in my sexual prowess and I don’t feel oppressed by my environment. I see a lot of students that start off quite insecure or feel the need to self censor their sexuality and in that case, pole tends to liberate many men and women and build confidence in themselves as an individual. As far as reclaiming words go, we need to actually understand the meaning of the words in the first place. ‘Slut’ has had derogatory connotations for so long it’s synonymous with low self esteem and a careless selection process. But if we understand ‘slut’ to mean a woman that loves sex, that is in control of her choices and hasn’t chosen monogamy then yes, sluts are fabulous. I’ll take 10.

We can finger wiggle and be sassy, but we also need to be smart. 

RESPONSE 3. CARMINE BLACKDANCE

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Reclaiming words can be very cathartic to individuals who have experienced slut shaming in their lives. To be honest, throughout my life, I’ve been shamed for my connection to my sensuality, even before I had an understanding of what it really was. I’ve had peers, family members... even my romantic partners, make me feel uncomfortable about things that seemed very natural to me. 

Pole allowed me to explore those parts of myself, within a safe space. It also allowed me realize that my body is mine… first and foremost. That I can do with it as I chose, and that my opinion of it should come before anyone else's. In some contexts, others might consider me “slut” because of this. I think reclaiming myself, as well as the words or associations of those connotations make me feel in control and empower me to make healthy assessments of who I am, and my self worth. 

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Be Smart, Be Brazen, and Be Understanding.

Make sure to comment your thoughts on rejecting categorisations, reclaiming words such as 'slut', and their implications. And if this made you think at all, please remember to share!

 

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